God will NOT send opportunities to you through your age mates alone.
If you’re too concerned about the numbers of your years, you will constrain the bandwidth of your possibilities, your chance of opportunities and favour will shrink!
You’d be lonely in life if you’re too focused on how old you are.
So many people will be wondering why they are not getting blessed, why opportunities are not coming their way. Why they are lonely in life, is because they are not open, and magnificent in allowing people to BE around you. You’d have met people who are very particular about age.
“You cannot talk to me anyhow because I am not your agemates”
People leave groups, companies, churches and exit important communities they belong to just because someone disrespected them. I am not saying you should tolerate disrespect. Do not disrespect people, and do not allow yourself to be disrespected or walked over, but some people are very touchy and sensitive, they are overly particular about titles and appellation. This kind of attitude shrinks and limits the number of opportunities, privileges and visibility you have. I need you to let this sink a little bit.
You will get opportunities from people who are younger. Folks who have money that you have never touched. You will have them in your class, in church, at work, in the neighborhood etc. Younger people who are doing massive and beautiful things.
Do not ever think that God distributes resources by age. You should have understood this by now. God has no business with age. He might uplift the younger in the presence of the older person, it is His prerogative. When you are on this journey, whatever you are doing in business or in career, reduce your sensitivity about age. It has no benefit to anyone.
Someone you are older than for about six years can wake up one day and remove your title.
Koni meaning.
If you are not mature and advanced, this can greatly unsettle you. Give grace.
People make head mistakes that do not come from their heart. It’s just as a result of their background, training, exposure etc They are not trying to hurt you.
You must separate the people who are making errors from their head from the people making it from their heart. If you meet the people who make mistakes from their head, be graceful.
I am saying this because I know God will be sending help, links and collaboration opportunities through people who are way younger than you who might not have the kind of upbringing or training you have. If you cast them away because they talked to you a certain way, if they have access to opportunities or information, it will not benefit you because you have sent them away. A lot of people have missed out on big opportunities because of this.
In fact, because of the dynamics of our world, the chance of a younger person getting an opportunity is very high. If you don’t know how to relate with them, you might lose.
There’s a Yoruba witticism that says
“The elder who is not often angry has more children”.
These are not biological children, this signifies influence, opportunities, reach, connectivity. They understand that being an elder requires lots of Influence because leadership is influence.
The first part of respect is how you carry and regard yourself everywhere. The other part is what people, out of the way they have related with you, give or accords to you. If you carry yourself well, with dignity and respect, people will willingly give you the honor you deserve. Don’t fight for it even when they don’t.
I know what you are thinking,
“they will not disrespect you if you have more money” You are partly correct but convert your anger to strategy, hardwork and prayers.
When your time comes, you will win back the prestige and honor you deserve.
I hope this helps?
Have a great day and breakthrough from within
©Abiola Iyiola, 2025
