Have you Been Frustrated Lately?
How to find your authentic self and voice
Looking at too many moving vehicles, standing by the roadside or highway for too long choosing nothing will definitely make your eye turn. It will make your taste go bland. It will make your tired and weary. It will drain your energy and destroy your motivation. Your ability to create will be hindered by dwelling on too many models and archetypes.
To be fair to you, the buses, cars and trucks of life are fanciful. Beautiful models, fascinating designs, It would be wrong for anyone to tell you to ignore these beautiful sight. You're engrossed with watching different options, products, models, styles, so much you don't know which to pick.
Frustration is a result of engaging too many possibilities, contemplating too many actions, jumping on too many conclusions. It is characterized by asking too many questions from those who don't have the solution. Looking for success and fulfillment from people that don't produce it.
Frustration comes from bold assumptions and unresearched investments.
Our truest compasses are not outside. We do not understand life or live out purpose by following finished paths. We live by responding to our inner nudges. No matter how beautiful, functional, and successful the careers, lifestyles, families, and calling of those you meet on your path in life, your journey are not exactly the same. You will create your life by answering your inner questions and serving your purpose. You don't make life’s choices by watching successful outcomes, you will be misled. Success is a lot of cables and paths rolled into one. Lots of tears. Lots of heart breaks and disappointment. You can't fathom what people have been through just by looking at their beautiful faces unless they tell you. And even of they tell you, every story demands a unique plot. You cannot get it by following what it has become.
“Hundreds of people on the internet looks like me. Thousands of writers has written something I should be writing. Thousands of speakers present their messages like I would have done”. If this is what you think about after reading, watching or listening to people, you are setting yourself for tension and unpalatable experiences.
Change your view (outside to inside). Answer your questions. If you're not hearing yourself, you're too carried away. Pay quality attention to your inner groanings. Limit the contemplations that is draining your energy.
You are the focus. You are the character. You are the sickle, you are the messenger. Develop deep convictions about your journey, process, business, gifts, talent, call, spouse marriage. Accept that it might not look perfect (nothing is perfect) like the people you see once in a while on TV or social media but it is your current reality and you will make it better.
Let me shock you. This is the third piece I'm writing tonight for the Breakthrough series. (I deleted the ones I wrote before). I just know that those are not the messages I'm supposed to share with you now. I sharpened the path of listening, discernment and agreement with my conviction to this place because I have developed my inner sensors. I know when I'm writing what everyone Is writing (which leads to frustration and reduced impact). The same way you know when you're following flashlights.
Flashlights are beautiful. They are attractive but they are nothing but flashlights. It might look like your message, but it's not yours. It might look like your path, but I promise you, it's not. It might look like your style, your song, your business, your career, but it's not. Find your own path and your cure to frustration.
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Have a great week and breakthrough from within.
-Abiola Iyiola,
Creative Director, AI Leadership Consult
