Inter-Mission

The way most folks think about success is terribly disturbing. They focus on the seasons where things are going well. The period they were in the ring throwing punches and making it big in the boardroom. Planning and making progress. Dreaming and figuring things out. On the track, running faster than the rest of their track mates. In the market making sales. On the field making dribbles and outshining their peers and impressing their coaches.

So everyone is optimizing for good seasons. As far as they are concerned the other slower, unprofitable season is not relevant because it’s not bringing results or adding to their mileages.

And that’s the terrible part. We pay little attention to what matters most - the whole journey, not just a part of it.

Let me remind you that the time you took to heal, take care of your body, and spirit counts. The time doesn’t become useless or a waste because you were fixing your body and mending your soul. The time you were using to nurse your pregnancy and raise that child alone is not a waste. The time you were using to care for a loved one is not useless. It’s part of your journey. You are not a loser because of that pause.

You’re not a failure because you stepped out of the car because sometimes, even if your car got to the destination faster, you may not be in the car. That’s what most folks do not understand. It’s not about the speed. It’s about taking care of the things that matter as you go along this journey. Ensuring that you’re unbroken as you progress.

I understand how badly you needed to get the trophy, hit your goals, and get to your destination. A minute counts because if you don’t take your chance the world would leave you behind. I understand.

There’s money to be made, trophies to be raised but the only thing that would prove that you lived is when you are present in the life you’re living.

If you can step aside to attend to the things that crave your attention: your body that needs nurturing, your spirit that is breaking, your wholeness and family. It’s not about the speed, it’s about how blooming the life you experience daily.

Life doesn’t stop counting because you’re in your yard smelling dandelion as you nurture your spirit to heal.

Sometimes it looks like life only happens in the arena and anyone who is not there is missing out. That’s not true.

Your break is part of your career. Your remission is part of your healing. Your intermission is part of your journey. Your quietness is part of your building. Your silence is part of your story. Same as your season of absolute confusion.

Some experiences look like we’re isolated, cursed, rejected, and miserable, like we are out of the meet. But it’s not true. You’re running even if you’re the only one on the track and your effort counts. Most progress feels like a detour. Like rejections. Like loss. Like a burning time. But it’s not .

This is an unusual message for those who feel they are missing out on life because they need to be there for themselves or someone else. Progress is not measured with the tape that other people hold. With the standard they exaggerate. It is measured by the result we get from surviving the battles we have to fight. If battles are not the same, destination time can’t be the same. For crazy reasons we have to lift different weights. It’s not a problem as long as we’re focused on lifting what’s in front of us without comparing what we have with others.

Survive the test in front of you. Do not feel out of touch. You’re not less of a winner because you are taking care of your business.

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©Abiola Iyiola, 2026