Learning How To Prioritize The Right Energy

The first news here is that we cannot be friends if all you bear hurts me. But that is really inconsequential because that is me and you can do without me. The main news is that that is what a lot of people who come about your content and countenance feels about you. 

No one likes going to bitterness, pain and dark corners. No One likes befriending people that have a bag filled with horrors. Do not misquote me, accidents are part of life, it's like a bitter pill we have to swallow when it does happen. But we don't rush to the front page of our lives to announce them at the highest pitch every darn time it happens. 

Know this, content forms perception. You are your content. Fight all you can, kick all you can, when someone makes an inference of you based on what you say, write or do all the time, they are right. I've seen people who publish a disclaimer “I am not my content” you sure are!

You write about music all the time, you're in the kitchen all the time, your gist is always about automobiles, whatever you do. And this is where it gets interesting. Contents form the coils of what we attract. It governs the electromagnetic field. Recently, despite the fact that I have never mentioned anywhere that I optimize LinkedIn profiles, one of my online connections asked that I do it for her. She paid and also got someone else to pay. That is attraction based on content. 

Know this too, we all are having little breakdowns here and there in our lives. Our wife is admitted, our car was impounded, our child is sick, our husband walked out of the house, we fought our siblings at the family reunion and got our mother crying, we failed a paper, got denied of our Visa, got ridiculed and snitched by a long time friend, got rejected by a lover, got a termination letter at work, our dear friend just got diagnosed of cancer, the list is endless.

We feel broken and shattered but it's not all on the frontline. 

This is probably the most important part. Good things are speaking but you decided to amplify the bad. There could be many people in a room, it doesn't matter if they do not have a microphone. Platform swells content. Attention amplifies. What we give attention to is what we want to see. What we want to see is what we devote some action to. What we act on is what we solve. I do not have pitiable readers. But sometimes we want attention from people because we think that it will numb our pain. Seeking Attention will enlarge your soreness and weaken your brand. It weakens your limb and makes you a human vegetable who cannot respond adequately to his own challenges. 

When all you share is bad news, people will equate you with your sore stories and they will gradually move away from you. That is big. Because every content dispense it's own kind of energy. And you cannot blame people, imagine that people are running away from trouble and you are taking them to it. People have heartbreaks they're trying to forget or walk away from, have bills that is due, and have sick parents, but you help them to remember when they are trying to focus on other things. 

Here is the bomb! You need people to see you from the angle of respect, not as weak and incapable, not as a wretched fellow who is always at the mercy of the public. That weakens you. You will get less and less opportunities and chances if you do that, pitiable people gets palliatives, but they don't get opportunities, these are two different things! You need opportunities to grow and expand. You need palliatives to survive. You can choose what you want. 

Finally, I am confident that as you focus and publish what you deeply want and desire, the lines will fall in place for you. Your kind will aggregate around you and you will be stronger than you were before life charged at you. 

I’d love to read from you about this piece in the comments. Have a lovely week and breakthrough from within.

Abiola Iyiola,

Creative Director,

AI Leadership Consult