Leave That Relationship Now

“You can forgive hurt, but you cannot forgive what someone believe about you” -Abiola Iyiola

Most of you may never need the excerpt above until many years from now, but some of you are in the experience.

It’s a relationship challenge

Forgiveness is a requisite for peace, so I recommend it. However, know the difference between what to forgive and what to move away from.

Mistakes may never occur again after the first occurence. Someone can say what they terribly regret. Forgive them whether they ask for forgiveness or not. Errors are bound to happen as humans.

But when someone consistently shows and tells you how they see you, something you are not. A concept you do not represent, forgive but do not remain in that relationship.

Here is why:

What they believe about you will engage what you believe about yourself in a fierce battle.

They believe you are not enough, believe you are not capable, believe you are not competent, consistent and strong etc. If you are not those things, if you continue to stay in that relationship, you will lose yourself to their belief. Their narrative will sink whatever you think about yourself.

This is how relationships affect and change us. Your immune system and your capacity to resist foreign narrative is only as strong. With a few more pressure you will give in

Those words will fly above your head when the chips are down. You will swim in the vortex and sea of these narratives until you drown.

You are not that strong. No one is strong enough to withstand darts of words, shots of doubts, and attack of disbelief

Your muscle memory and motor neurons will imitate the reflection you see in a mirror constantly.

This is how words become a stronghold in relationships

Your judgement and will will imitate the gestures and words you consistently submit yourself to

A sound of warning as a leader: Do not attack what people believe about themselves no matter how you feel about them. Do not destroy people because you are their boss, parent, supervisor, brother, husband or wife. Address their errors and leave their personality.

If you are in such an abuse relationship, leave now if you can. Do not allow people to recreate you or tamper with your intentional construction.

No one can survive a sustained attack on their soul and spirit in an enclosed space for long. You cannot win. You will sustain injuries that could take decades to unravel. You will break in places that the hands of a surgeon can not reach.

You will internalise and extend similar abuse to other people because wounded people wound other people.

Scars don’t necessarily produce empathy. It denatures.

What people believe about you rarely changes and it’s best to love those people from a distance. You have no business trying to convince them. Your only job is to be at a safe distance before you’re infected.

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